Frigidity is often described as complete absence of sexual
arousal in women. These women cannot get aroused even after long and
appropriate touching of the vagina. This is therefore a completely different
problem than inability of achieving intense orgasm. Sexology is a relatively new
science which explored sexual occurrences and sexual behavior of men and women.
Every new discovery in this area is replacing old knowledge or it simply
changes it.
There are many limits that do not allow us to get completely
accurate information about sexual problems. This is the reason why many
researchers had different opinions about frigidity too. For example, English
surgeon Acton thought that the opinion that some women don’t experience
sexuality is absurd. On the other hand, Freud thought that a woman is frigid if
she is unable to achieve orgasm during normal sexual intercourse. Today,
frigidity is described with all the casual factors together. But how can we
tell if some women is suffering from frigidity?
Some people believe that only women that don’t feel sexual
arousal and don’t achieve orgasms can be called frigid. Other people think that
a woman is frigid if she doesn’t feel need for sex but can achieve orgasm.
Still others believe the opposite – that a woman is frigid if she does feel
need for sex but has never experienced an orgasm. In other words, a strict
definition of frigidity is impossible to construct, at least not in only one
sentence. It is worth mentioning that some claims about female frigidity have
been scientifically disproved a long time ago.
Some factors that lead to frigidity
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Wet dreams – there are many women who believe
they are frigid but they have erotic dreams and they masturbate regularly. This
only means that they experience sexuality in dreams and masturbation and that’s
how they release their sex drive. They are not frigid.
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A selfish man – this type of men were used to
occasional and casual sex encounters and all of a sudden they realize that
their wife is sexually unresponsive. They only rely on their masculinity and
think that this is all they need in order to provide pleasure to their women.
They are bad husbands and bad lovers because they only think about their own
needs. In other words, he just takes and gives nothing in return.
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Feeling of guilt – Some women practice
masturbation regularly but they do this with a feeling of guilt that is buried
deep in the sub consciousness. These things create limitations and they cannot
relax during sex. They even don’t let the partner touch them in the same way
they touch themselves and become unnecessary cold.
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Fear of unwanted pregnancy – This is one of the
main reasons for temporary frigidity. Although the contraceptive methods are
improved and they guarantee almost 100% protection some women are still afraid
that they might end up pregnant. This feeling of fear is especially present in
women that cannot use birth control pills and they consider that other methods
are unreliable.
