Most men cannot last long in bed because they believe that there is nothing that can be done to influence the time they last, i.e., delay ejaculation. It's really quite simple to understand that. Almost all men who cannot last long in bed assume that there is nothing they can do to delay ejaculation.
The most common reasons we hear about why men think they cannot delay ejaculation are:
· It's the fault of their genes, he thinks he was born that way;
· It has always been so, therefore, it cannot change in the future;
· The penis size is not big enough;
· They tried to change it (in ways that made no sense), once or twice, and it did not work, so it should not be possible to change;
· That's what their women are making it happen;
· They are very young ... or too old;
· They believe all men experience early ejaculation problem, so it is fine.
But the truth is ... these are all excuses to not to learn to apply the methods and proven techniques to delay ejaculation. It’s not like men who say these things are all incapable. It’s just pointing out that all this is just excuses, and you cannot make excuses nothing to believe in something that is not true.
Some people may come with complex reasoning behind these excuses (making it appear that they are valid), but later at the end of the day, they are still just excuses.
These "reasons" are just excuses given by people who are not willing to work on the resolution of their problem to delay ejaculation. For example, if you tell yourself, “I cannot last long in bed because I was born this way”, then you just give yourself a good reason not to try anything. And the big problem of these excuses is that you will never be able to solve your problem of premature ejaculation.
The only reason that people still do it (consciously or unconsciously) is what psychology calls “secondary gains”. In this case, you do not have to solve the problem, but it has a kind of “comfort” to try to believe that there is nothing you can do to delay ejaculation. That is, the fault is not yours; it's just something with destiny.
So often people feel comfortable with their excuses and it prevents them from acting. However, if you want to have an amazing sex life, where you can have fun in bed and be able to give an incredible pleasure and lasting for your wife, then you have to put aside your excuses. So, do so now. Take a second of your time to ask "Why I think I am not able to delay ejaculation?"
Accept that's just an excuse and that any logical reason you gave for it has no validity (as good as it is). The excuse is not a good enough reason not to implement proven strategies that will greatly improve your sex life.
It's time to act and learn to delay ejaculation to last longer in bed and experience the many benefits that come with it. Now, if you accepted that you can change this situation and decided to do it, but do not know what you need to do, then continue to check online (books and articles on Premature Ejaculation and Tantric Sex) and thus, you will find the path that you are looking for.
And, if you are ready to follow the steps to last longer in bed, congratulations, you just about to join the list of people who have had success and changed their sexual lives forever.