Warning signs of sex addiction

Just like being addicted to drugs, shopping, gambling or work, one might also be addicted to sex. A sex addict’s thought is filled with sex at least 90 percent of the time. They cannot seem to take their mind off it. They are either looking for ways to get them or are constantly thinking of them even before they take any sex pill. This could be quite dangerous as most sex addicts are rapists who do not mind violating an underaged child. Most of the time, their work life might suffer because they cannot concentrate on working. They are either daydreaming about sex, or searching for sex partners on the internet or brothels.

It is not easy to stop this habit, especially when carried on for a long time. Most people who have tried to often feel caged and do not experience sexual pleasure or excitement with their chosen partners and so, they end up back to their old habit again. It is, however, possible to treat this case through rigorous therapy and also, commitment on the part of the addict.

Signs a sexual addict may exhibit

Note that a sexual habit person may not come out looking all mean or evil. It could be a gentle looking man at your office or that sweet lady that waves at you every morning. But there are some warning signs you could notice if you are observant enough;

A sexual addict has no control over their sexual behaviors. They just find themselves constantly thinking or engaging in them.

They will hide certain sexual behavior from their partner. This could range from having a threesome, to an orgy. They do not want to be judged or pressured to give up their fantasies or stop their behaviors. So they do their possible best to keep it away from their partners.

A sexual addict will rather prefer to go to prison rather than resisting an urge to coerce or force an underage to have sex with them. They find it hard to quit their sexual behavior even when it is obvious it’s a source of sadness and depression to their loved ones and people around them. They go ahead and cheat on their partners multiple times without remorse. Even if they feel remorseful, they are often at it again in the blink of an eye.

They would rather spend time chasing their sexual fantasies; looking for where the next naked party is going on, or where they can find multiple sex partners to binge on, than spending time with family and friends. Call them selfish or self- centered, they really don’t care.

Most sex addicts might have lost their jobs due to sexual misconduct at work. Their names are often associated with topics that have to deal with sexual harassment in the workplace. They might have had a divorce due to multiple accounts of cheating and family neglection. They might have been involved with a number of failed relationships because they couldn’t keep their pants up. It is more like a cycle than something that happens once or twice.

Sex on the first date and its consequences

Having sex on the first date and enjoying “night games” after which every side goes into separate ways is a dream for many men. However, it is quite different when you have sex with a girl that you have just met in a bar compared to having sex with a girl with whom you want to build a relationship. This is why many men ask themselves when is the right time to have sex?

If you really want to get involved in a serious relationship, try to avoid having sex on the first date. It is a well known fact that men like challenges, so if they get what they want quickly, chances are that they will lose interest after a while. Most women are aware of this fact and this is why they try to avoid sex at the same day (or night) when they meet their partner. If a woman thinks that some man is good for a sexual relationship she will do anything she can to keep the man interested but without going straight to the bed.

This tactic that includes a combination of dating and meetings with intention to find out something more about each other, longing and anticipation is what “works” in favor of romance relationship and simply forces us to fell in love. While men are constructing their plans to see their partner naked, they realize that the woman they have chosen is worth waiting for and worth their emotions. That’s why men should keep in mind that if some woman doesn’t want to have sex immediately that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t find that particular guy attractive. Women know that it is better to wait for a while. On the other hand, is the man continues to behave normally and patiently waits for his chance he sends a strong single that he respects that woman and at the same his sexual desire are growing stronger.

There are many men who believe that sex on the first date is great. They don’t want to be involved in sexual relationships with a woman that doesn’t suit them in bed. It is interesting that these men never ask about the woman’s previous sexual experience and the number of sex partners she had.

Long waiting is not a solution too. It is completely normal to keep things going on slowly out of respect but men cannot be too passive because these situations can send the wrong signals. The phase when people are still learning more about the other side is a phase when another person can enter the life of your potential partner so being too much passive can take things into another direction.   

According to some experts the right time to have sex is the fourth date. These experts believe that this is the time when you know just enough about the other side and their interests and whether you are attracted to each other or not. Of course, you don’t have to stick to this rule but you need to make sure that you need to get things moving.