A new relationship might come with all the
butterflies, and I want you forever text that it’s easy to ignore the important
aspects especially if you are going to be
warming each other’s bed soon! There are questions concerning sex you need to
ask your new partner to allow a smooth
sail of sex when the time finally comes. Here are some starting tips, you can think up others as you get answers to your questions.
Sexual
history
It is important to know the sexual history
of your partner. Is he/ she straight? Is he/she bisexual? Is he/she gay? Have
they ever had unprotected sex? How often do they get tested for STIs? Have they
ever contracted an sexually transmitted infections? Was it a bacterial or viral infection? Of course, you
shouldn’t ask the questions in quick
succession but endeavor to ask them to stay safe.
Some people won’t tell say anything till
you ask, so don’t wait for them to tell you. It is also important you both go
for testing and treatment to start the relationship on a new foot without fear
of infection.
Sex
time
While some people want to have sex every
minute of the day, others have a preferred time to get intimate. It is
necessary to discuss with your new partner about this and get them to tell you
their preferred time. This will save you
the embarrassment and frustrations of trying to get someone in bed when they
don’t feel like having sex. Moreover, if
you both have conflicting times, you can easily compromise to make it work.
Sexual
secrets
Does your partner have any secret he or she
wants to share with you? Was he/she raped
or sexually molested while growing up or recently. It is essential to know the
sexual secrets of your partner to know if they need help or special attention
during sex.
Sexual
health
Is your new partner diabetic and having a
problem sustaining an erection? Find out the sexual health problems your
partner may have by simply asking. It could be a sexual dysfunction or vaginismus which causes vagina tightness and muscle
spasm. It can also be that she always experience painful sex or he has a
painful erection. Find out about these
problems and ensure they go for treatment to avoid hitches during the
relationship.
Sexual
Desires
People have different sexual desires and preferences. It is important to
know that of your new partner. Does he like the nine shades of grey submission
and bondage or is he contented with a vagina
and oral sex? Does she have a high libido and cannot be satisfied by one round
of sex? You’ll need to clarify these things before you begin the new
relationship.
We are talking about condoms and
contraceptives if you are not ready to have babies immediately you hit the
sheets. Know what form of contraceptive your partner prefers. Is it the
hormonal contraceptive, withdrawal method or plain old condom. Know about his
or her preferences to plan and avoid unwanted pregnancy.
