How to improve sexual health and sexuality in old age

Aging is a process that cannot be stopped. Obviously, we can do many things to slow down this process, but eventually we will become old. People in old age, often deal with problems related to sexuality. We are talking about many different types of problems. This is not something that should worry you because it is quite normal to experience such things, but this also doesn’t mean that you should give up and accept these problems. It is possible to prevent and solve these problems.

We are living in a world where the number of senior citizens is growing. This is something that we can read about on a daily basis. Unfortunately, in most cases these articles and discussions are mostly focused on finances, retirement homes etc. Experts usually forget to mention everyday issues which are equally important for the quality of life in senior citizens. It is a well-known fact that the elderly are living beings with their own needs and sexual desire is one of them.

Old age brings certain changes in the life of every person. So, how can we cope with these changes? It is best to recognize and accept them and start solving them as soon as possible. Now let’s see how we can improve sexual health and sexuality in old age.

First of all, it is important to understand that sexuality can be improved in every person regardless of their age. There are some really good terms for this activity when we reach old age. For instance, we no longer have to go to work which means less stress. The life is more relaxed and we have increased amount of energy. On top of that, those who have children will probably witness how their children leave the home. When you have more time and fewer distractions, it is the right time to unleash your passion and creativity and try new things.

As mentioned before, people who have reached old age experience many physical changes and this is why honest and open communication is important. In some cases, talking strictly about sex is enough to become more confident in bed.

Older men often deal with problems related to harder erection. In this case, it is highly recommended to practice certain sex position that will help you. For example, a position in which the woman is on top is the best because in this case the stiffness of the penis can be lower. In any case, all these physical handicaps should encourage you to explore new ways to enjoy sex and experience new sexual pleasure. In situations like this, foreplay gets an increased importance in our sex life, just like oral sex and/or masturbation.

Physical activity should not be neglected in old age. Of course, the exercise should be adjusted to our personal physical capabilities. We should not forget that each of us can make progress too. It is also a good idea to adjust the diet – stay away from foods that contain too much fat and enjoy in more veggies and fruits. Better sexual health depends on our healthy spirit and healthy body. In other words, we should pay special attention to protection of the body and mind.

What is Frigidity?

Frigidity is often described as complete absence of sexual arousal in women. These women cannot get aroused even after long and appropriate touching of the vagina. This is therefore a completely different problem than inability of achieving intense orgasm. Sexology is a relatively new science which explored sexual occurrences and sexual behavior of men and women. Every new discovery in this area is replacing old knowledge or it simply changes it. 

There are many limits that do not allow us to get completely accurate information about sexual problems. This is the reason why many researchers had different opinions about frigidity too. For example, English surgeon Acton thought that the opinion that some women don’t experience sexuality is absurd. On the other hand, Freud thought that a woman is frigid if she is unable to achieve orgasm during normal sexual intercourse. Today, frigidity is described with all the casual factors together. But how can we tell if some women is suffering from frigidity?

Some people believe that only women that don’t feel sexual arousal and don’t achieve orgasms can be called frigid. Other people think that a woman is frigid if she doesn’t feel need for sex but can achieve orgasm. Still others believe the opposite – that a woman is frigid if she does feel need for sex but has never experienced an orgasm. In other words, a strict definition of frigidity is impossible to construct, at least not in only one sentence. It is worth mentioning that some claims about female frigidity have been scientifically disproved a long time ago.

Some factors that lead to frigidity

-          Wet dreams – there are many women who believe they are frigid but they have erotic dreams and they masturbate regularly. This only means that they experience sexuality in dreams and masturbation and that’s how they release their sex drive. They are not frigid.

-          A selfish man – this type of men were used to occasional and casual sex encounters and all of a sudden they realize that their wife is sexually unresponsive. They only rely on their masculinity and think that this is all they need in order to provide pleasure to their women. They are bad husbands and bad lovers because they only think about their own needs. In other words, he just takes and gives nothing in return.

-          Feeling of guilt – Some women practice masturbation regularly but they do this with a feeling of guilt that is buried deep in the sub consciousness. These things create limitations and they cannot relax during sex. They even don’t let the partner touch them in the same way they touch themselves and become unnecessary cold.

-          Fear of unwanted pregnancy – This is one of the main reasons for temporary frigidity. Although the contraceptive methods are improved and they guarantee almost 100% protection some women are still afraid that they might end up pregnant. This feeling of fear is especially present in women that cannot use birth control pills and they consider that other methods are unreliable.