The fact is that there is only a small number of
relationships and marriages that are completely perfect and in which everything
is idyllic including the sex life. There are many couples today that are facing
different problems when it comes to sexual life. They also experience
inconsistency in the quality of relationships, resentment about the frequency
of sexual activity, lack of mutual understanding about their wishes and
desires, stressful and busy lifestyle, tension, nervousness etc. These are all
problems that can seriously affect sexual life and even lead to complete sexual
activity.
In case one of the partners loses will, desire and need for
any form of sexual activity due to some dissatisfaction or burdened by some
problems while the other partners continues to have sexual appetites, then
problems become inevitable.
It is very difficult and almost impossible to imagine life
without sexual intercourses because besides the strong emotional connection it
is also very important to have a physical or sexual intimacy too. But, does
this mean that the concept of sex in marriages and long relationships should be
related to love? We could say that this is an individual approach. Some people
rarely have sexual activities, but partners show their love to each other
in other ways. Some of these ways include: expressing kind and sincere words,
understanding, attention etc. The truth is that these couples are very rare.
The vast majority of couples believe that love and sex
simply cannot work without each other, so if there is no sex involved in a
relationship they start panicking and start accusing their partners of many
things including lack of love.
In any case, a relationship without sexual activity is
unlikely to work. The partner who is involuntarily deprived of sexual attention
will start feeling undesired, neglected, unattractive and will often blame
themselves and think that they are not attractive anymore despite the fact that
in most cases the reason for this sexual inactivity doesn’t have anything to do
with these things.
Therefore, in the case of rare or completely non-existing
sexual relationships, it is crucial and essential to have open conversations
between the partners. The partner who has lost the will and desire for sex for
some reason should sincerely express their reasons, no matter how unpleasant or
difficult they might be because this is the only way to solve this problem. If
the other person in this relationship is honest and loves their partner they
will surely understand and they will try to solve this problem together.
If sexual desire is missing due to problems, stress,
numerous obligations, it would be desirable for the partners to overcome this
difficult situation together and try to reduce the impact of these things on
their sex life as much as possible. In fact, the ideal solution would be to try
to revive the passion in bed because passions bring only good relaxation and
elimination of stress.
We can certainly conclude that sexual activity is an
essential part of any relationship and that relationships without sex can have
equally negative effects for both partners.
